Where is your #happy place?
I’ve lived almost my entire life in Rochester, NY. I was actually born there. Moved to Wilton, CT when I was 1 until I was 3 where we moved to Albany, NY where I lived until I was 14. I spent every summer in Lake George, NY until I was 18ish, but lived in Rochester, NY from 14 to present…(almost 51).
I used to listen to people talk about season depression and I thought year right, winter is great. My husband and I were avid snow skiers by winter and water skiers by summer. We had a place on Owasco Lake for about 28 years and spent a good 10 winters skiing as much as we could at Bristol Mountain. I had my kids on skis/snowboards by the time they were 2 (on a harness…I had wicked strong legs snowplowing the whole way down). When number #2 kid decided he wanted to play hockey, it put a damper in our winter skiing. But in true Talty form, we switched gears and the ENTIRE family gook up hockey. Yep.
From there I spent a good 12 years or so in hockey rinks almost EVERY DAY! Weekends were nuts, traveling with 3 different hockey teams across two countries. Who needs sunshine? Who needs heat? I joked that at least I didn’t have to deal with the weather at like football, soccer, or lacrosse in Rochester. I just knew I was going to cold. Its why then invented UGG boots, just saying.
Then, one day, my kids grew up…WTF? Why!? We were having so much fun…
Now, you’re all asking what does this have to do with my happy place? Because being able to reach your happy place, wherever that is, helps changes in life go a little easier…a little smoother…
I’m so insanely thrilled and proud of my children. They are all succeeding in life. They are healthy, happy, and making their own ways.
That said, when you spend 25 years with your children as the center of your universe, the transition, though gradual as they left over the course of 6 years, kind of sucker punches you and you’re left with your spouse…har har.
Anyway, as a kid, whenever I was feeling sad, or blue, I always went for the water. If it was winter, I’d day dream about being at the lake. Perhaps this is why ALL my books are set near a lake, or have scenes at the lake. I’m obsessed with water. Its my happy place. I’ve always been able to give myself a few months enjoying the water. I’m lucky…very lucky…so for the next few months, this is the few from my office. The Ocean is just past this little stretch of water and I went there this morning to walk and watch the sun rise. As I was walking, I realized just how much more upbeat I had become over night. I felt more positive. Happy.
Its odd, because during the summer, at home, I’m very happy. My husband and I have lived in the same house since 1992 and have intention of moving anytime soon…just visiting places that allow me to be near my happy place and hubby to be near his…(the golf course, a different kind of beach!).