Bad first dates that end up in happily-ever-after…

The other day I was talking with a friend who married a guy I knew from HS. She’d been reading my books and asked why I wrote about Troopers. I didn’t know her in HS. She was a grade behind me. I knew of her, but not sure we ever spent any time together. The guy she married was a friend of mine. Nice guy. They have been together since like right out of HS. She and I chatted for a while and we’re both so lucky to have great hubbies.

Somehow we got on the topic of first dates. I laughed and told her my first with my husband was the WORST date I’d ever been on. She came back with “couldn’t have been that bad.” Then I told her the story and she said,┬ásomething to the effect of “well, that was bad.” What’s really funny to me was I got home that night and swore I’d never go out with him again…but I went out with him the very next night. Something about it him. Of course, I knew I had a keeper when he bought me a washer and dryer in our first apartment because all I did was bitch about going to the laundry mat. It was our first anniversary present. I thought it was sweet.

So, want the story?

It’s Valentine’s Day 1985. I’d been friends with this guy for like six months. We hung out with same group of friends. He chased me for 3 weeks when I finally said, whatever. He picked me up in his 1966 Buick Special that wasn’t special. It looked like someone took a sledge hammer to it. He pulls up into Oak Hill Country Club and says to the Valle “park this a good spot because last time I was here all this shit happened to it.” Line from Beverly Hills. I was mortified. Then we decided to go to a movie, that he picked…wait for it…he took me to see THE KILLING FIELDS on Valentine’s Date for a first date? Yes. I married this man.

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I’m so glad he stopped wearing that hat and that shirt!

So, the date pretty much sucked, but the interesting thing was he was just so sweet in his weird way. Nothing has changed there. Nothing. We’ve been together for nearly 32 years, 31 years living under the same roof and 28 years married. I think that’s something.

Feel free to share your dating stories…

Podcasts and the Personality Hacker

For Christmas, my husband gave me Beats Wireless Headphones along with a speaker for my office so I can listen to music while working or while cleaning, cooking, laundry, whatever. My daughter got me hooked on Podcasts, so the headphones come in handy while I’m wondering about the house.

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Anyway, I found this fun Podcast/Blog called Personally Hacker. It’s all about Myers-Briggs and the different personality types. I’ve always been fascinated by how we perceive ourselves and others. I’ve taken the Myers-Briggs test and have always landed on INFJ. I took their test, which isn’t half as long, and once again, I landed on the INFJ. So, I decided to listen to their podcast on the INFJ personality type. Wow. Very interesting. Mostly because it gave me such insight into myself and why I fall back into what I think are old habits, or safety zones, protecting me from the big bad world. It also gave me insight into other people, especially those who don’t “get me”.

The other concept I liked from this blog/podcast is the Car Model. When I listened to them talk about this in Podcast, it really made sense with how we learn new information and make decisions. Check it out, then the following might make sense. I think as an INFJ my car model goes something like this:

Driver: Introverted iNtuition – “Perspectives”

Co-Pilot: Extroverted Thinking – “Harmony”

10 Year-Old: Introverted Thinking – “Accuracy”

3 Year-Old: Extraverted Sensing – “Sensation”

What really fascinated me was that in this model, our 10 year-old is also called our “Defensive State”. For me, based on this model, it’s so true!

Just one of many personal favorite topics! Feel free to discuss, comment, tell me your personality type, any thoughts. I’ll probably come back to this at a later date…